Friday, December 31, 2010

Facing Cosmetic Surgery

Thousands of people will undergo cosmetic surgery this year. Their reactions will fall somewhere between silent confusion and a straightforward willingness to discuss their decision to change their appearance.
More people than ever are electing cosmetic surgery, but today’s motivations often are far different from the erstwhile stereotype of the suburban matron with too much time and money on her hands.
In today’s downsized, competitive job market, many people elect cosmetic surgery for reasons other than vanity. They do it because they are convinced it will further their career.
And with more and more people appearing publicly in various stages of presurgical and postsurgical conditions, the problem of what to say and what not to say arises for both the patient and the friends and acquaintances of the patient. Although most people today are open about having cosmetic surgery, it can still be a touchy topic for conversation. To avoid hurt feelings, follow these suggestions:
  • Never tell a person that he or she is crazy to have cosmetic surgery.
  • Wait until the person opens the subject before you ask whether someone had cosmetic surgery.
  • If you are curious, try saying, “You look wonderful today.” If the reply is that the person had surgery, ask only: “Are you pleased with the results?”
  • Even if pressed, never criticize the results. If you must, you can say: “I see what you mean but only when you point it out.”
  • Never volunteer the names of others who have had cosmetic surgery.
  • Never gossip about the subject.
  • Cosmetic or not, it’s still surgery. Be solicitous about the person’s health and well-being.
  • If you have had cosmetic surgery and look markedly different, make it easier for those around you by opening the door for comments.

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